Your ability to choose your mentors can be one of the most important skills in your life. Here is some advice on how to develop better and more successful mentor-mentee relationships.
Can you imagine what life would be like if no one ever volunteered information or offered to help you with any of the challenges in your life? Some people are very self reliant; however it becomes obvious to each of us that whenever we begin a new challenge it is hugely advantageous to receive the help of a good mentor. It saves us time and untold misery from trial and error that would otherwise keep most of us from fulfilling the biggest goals in our lives not to mention unnecessary expenses.
How then would you find a good mentor for your online business? How can you find the right person willing to invest time and effort in you for the sake of your best interests?
First, you must know exactly what it is you want to accomplish before you start looking for a mentor to help you with your goals. Write a list of your goals and the things you need to achieve so that you have a clear picture of what type of mentor you will need.
Once you have a clear picture in mind and you can articulate that to yourself and others look around and select the most successful people in the areas where you will need the most help.
Obviously you can't expect to access the very best in a given field unless you have unusual means by which to do so. Unless you have the financial ability to hire the best, assuming they are available, then you can do the next best thing. You can often buy their instructional CDs or listen to their webinars or seminars and so on.
Finding a personal mentor that is willing to work with you on a regular basis is probably the best form of mentorship. You can do this by joining clubs, organizations or business associations that these types of people belong to.
One excellent way to find help from quality mentors for online business mentoring is to join a good forum and participate while you get to know some of the people in that forum. I have found that BetterNetworkers.com is an excellent forum to spend time in. There are many good forums, I happen to be comfortable with BN.com because it was founded by Mike Dillard and reflects his philosophy on attraction marketing. You will find many good people in networking there that will be glad to offer quality advice.
In forums you can ask questions and read answers to other peoples' questions and in doing so you will get to know some of the more experienced business owners. You will also get a pretty good education by looking at a variety of topics. By participating in forums potential mentors may become familiar with you and this may bring you together if you give it some time and don't rush it.
The really cool thing is that everyone has a profile that is easily accessible and you can quickly see what those persons' interests and experiences are so you can determine if you have similar interests.
When you find a potential mentor, don't make a nuisance of yourself by being too aggressive. Ask the person for advice that you know he/she has the experience to help you with. Gradually develop a relationship with them so that it becomes natural for them to want to help you.
Remember that a good mentor is likely to be a very busy person due to personal challenges with their business and family commitments so they may be protective of their time. Be courteous and consider that they had to pay their dues to get where they are, so helping you is a gift from them.
One of the most important analogies to mentor-mentee relationships is this; "If you're going to pay expensive fees for an attorney, doctor or CPA, and you don't follow their advice then their client is a fool!" Don't make the same mistake with mentoring.
You may not be paying for a mentor's advice but there is an exchange to be made. How do you think your mentor would feel if they find that you're not following through on any of their advice or guidance?
Consider that many people have a desire to give back to others when they've reached a certain level of success. If they are wasting their time with you then you are depriving them and yourself of a mutual sense of accomplishment. What is more valuable to a successful entrepreneur than time?
If you are lucky enough to develop a genuine relationship with a mentor, they will guide you to the right books, articles to read, audios, seminars and advice for your personal development and business interests. The best way to pay someone back for their ongoing efforts in grooming you for success is by becoming successful. That's quite a commitment but that's what it is all about.
The fastest way for you to succeed in anything is by riding on the "trade winds" of good advice and counsel from people who have spent years learning how to succeed ahead of you. Mentored is better!